Most parents experience arguing with their teenage children as a negative and stressful event. Interestingly enough, most Teens experience healthy arguments as not only a sign of trust, but as a legitimate way of being responsible. If a Teen does not trust you as an adult, they aren't abut to argue with you and reveal what they might be truly thinking. They will simply "yes" you to get you to go away and then hide whatever their true thoughts and feelings might be. Ironically, this means that if a Teen argues with you, it is a sign of trust and respect. In their new book Nurture Shock, Bronson and Merryman cite research that suggests that in households where there is more arguing (and by "healthy," we mean no physical violence and a sense of fairness and equal listening), Teens are actually less engaged in unhealthy risk-taking than in households where there is no arguing or unhealthy levels or degrees of arguing. Food for thought!